When a guy says you are intimidating
Frustration, exhaustion, excitement, sadness, happiness; you name it, I felt it. Pride in the fact that I finished a doctorate program in three years while working full time.Pride in the fact that at the beginning of my program a professor said to us, “Whatever you do, do not change anything about your life circumstances in the next three years” …and instead, I went through a major breakup, a move, and a job change and finished in three years.Maybe women have made them feel bad for not having a degree.I can chalk it up to their past experience; I can remind myself that it isn’t truly about me.I spent so much time in school because it made sense for me — for my skill set, my interests, and my career path. I am 100k in debt; my student debt will negatively impact my life forever.I would never advocate someone getting themselves into a similar situation unless it truly made sense for themselves and their career goals.
During this time, I have experienced all range of emotions, as anyone going through this process has.In fact, if given the choice, I would to date a man in a completely different industry; someone with totally different skills than I have.But lately, it feels like that choice is being taken away from me because men can’t handle the fact that I am excited about something I accomplished.Instead of being excited that they are getting the best version of me that has existed in quite some time, these men seem to be LESS interested because I have accomplished something.I don’t expect men to have had the same educational path as I have had.