Dating men in their 50s
We recently attended a wedding in Palm Springs together, a fancy affair with pool parties, fireworks, and a ceremony at the Empire Polo Club where they host the Coachella music festival.
I'm 33, Megan is 37, and the majority of the guests who were not relatives of the bride or groom fell somewhere squarely in between.
Women are attracted to men who know who they are; men who have established their own set of values in life and men who have the strength of character to stand by those values and always be true to themselves.
Knowing who you are and knowing what you want from life makes you an attractive man at any age.
When you interact with a woman, she is only going to look at you as a potential lover, boyfriend or husband if you can make her feel sexually attracted to you. It’s no surprise that a man in his 50s might be carrying a little more “baggage” with him than a man in his 20s.
The more sexual attraction you are able to make women feel by way of your personality, confidence, vibe, body language, behavior and attitude, the more options you will have with women. It’s totally normal, expected and nothing to worry about at all.
Trying to use advice that was applicable 40 years ago is only going to cause you trouble because, believe me, things really have changed.
Dating men of any age presents its own unique set of challenges: In high school you get fumbling boys, confused about where to put their body parts in relation to yours, despite their over-eagerness for the proximity. If you manage to settle down with one in their thirties you'll still spend time tinkering with their training wheels, coaching them through their careers, mothering them, and turning them into the men they want to be.
Sure, you might have different sets of responsibilities by the time you reach your 50s compared to a guy in his 20s, but you don’t need to consider it “baggage,” it’s simply part of who you are.
There’s nothing wrong with you having a past with other women, or having a dog that you love or having your children come and stay with you on weekends.
Megan dates older men because, as she says, they are men. It's exhausting." Megan can actually date her attraction to silver foxes back to childhood and a certain ex-President from the late 1980s/early 1990s: "I think this is all George H. In middle school we had an assignment to write a letter to a famous person. The rest of my sixth grade class felt this way about Donnie Wahlberg.
"It's not for everyone but I prefer to be with a man that has already conquered his world and wants to enjoy the rest of his life," she told me. Donnie seemed like a loose cannon, much too unpredictable. I am perfectly capable of doing the above myself but a real gentleman would never even think to have me do such a thing. A man in his sixties is not going to wait five years or even two to commit.