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It’s the single most difficult thing I have ever done in my entire life (and this home girl has ‘done’ a lot. ) The recovery experience is physical, emotional and spiritual.I’ve lived in Los Angeles and worked at a news station. There are painful, physical withdrawals from stopping the eating disorder behaviors; similar to drug withdrawals.She may truly believe that Ed is the only one who will ever love her so she is better off leaving people before they have a chance to abandon her. Hold her hand, wipe her tears, and remind her this is a fight she CAN and WILL win. It is something that the average person can not comprehend or stay courageous against. Not everyone is cut out for dating one of these beautiful, determined individuals.He will hiss lie after lie after lie, whatever it takes, to get her to start pushing you away. She knows her eating disorder is a scary pill to swallow for you, and Ed may use that to his advantage. And her breakdown is a sign of a great deal of vulnerability. Like I said earlier, Ed wants her all to himself so he can destroy her, Like I also said, Ed is scary... Even just watching Ed from the outside is terrifying. Not because she is not amazing, but because it takes over her and her actions to scare people away. But because so many people have walked out of her life because of it, she has trust issues. He tells her it is because she is unlovable and not sick enough to be loved. She is a beautifully crafted individual, full of worth, and full of gifts that only she can bring to this world.Now that I do date I experience all the feelings that go with it; they are incredibly uncomfortable. I think the goal for every woman should be an unshakable belief that no matter who likes or dislikes her she is still the same, strong, beautiful woman she was before she met this guy. Participating in life is an uncomfortable, wet, hot, sticky mess…and a whole lot of fun.I feel like going back in that sugar coma and saying, “Don’t mind me! ” However, I have to ask myself, “If I’m not willing to experience the painful aspects of dating and life, exactly what am I doing here? I’ve learned that dating can be scary if I let it be, it can also be fun if I let it be.She is her smile, her laughter, the way her eyes light up, she is her passion, her love, she is beautifully and completely her. The more you learn to recognize what is her and what is not, the better you can fight off Ed and help her achieve the full, real, and completely possible, freedom she deserves.
She may have lapses, she may slip up, and that is exactly what Ed wants. Instead of turning her emotions inward and taking them out on herself, she is letting it out. It is okay for her to cry, to scream, to breakdown. He tells her that she needs more of him in order to keep people in her life. The most twisted part is that her sickness is not the way to keep people in her life, it is actually what pushes them away. She fears abandonment, and when it does happen, she feels like it is all her fault for not being skinny enough, and sick enough. I promise SHE is worth keeping around, Ed is the one who needs to be abandoned. So she has to put on her shield of armor and battle this on the daily. Sometimes you have to fight a battle more than once to win. gives the toughest battles to the strongest warriors.
I’m part of the 80% of people who survive an eating disorder (source.) Oddly, in the recovery process I never heard anyone talk about the surviving part of an eating disorder.
I would imagine we could compare it to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
He may truly convince her that without him she will never be loved.
That if she leaves He may convince her that people will always leave her worthless self, but he is the only one who will never leave, He will tell her that she is better off isolating herself from people and spending all her time with him.